What a Blank Linkedin Profile Says About You!

What a Blank Linkedin Profile Says About You!

Job seekers often hear that they should be on LinkedIn to improve their chances of landing a new position. However, joining just to say you’re on it isn’t going to get you that dream job. In fact, an empty or blank LinkedIn profile could actually cause damage.

Missing or Bad Photo

According to Business Insider, LinkedIn profiles with a photo are seven times more likely to be viewed than ones without an uploaded photo. A quality image puts a face on your brand—projecting credibility, helping with memorability, and enabling viewers to start envisioning you in their work environment.

Incomplete Information

Think of LinkedIn as an online resume, and treat it with the same respect. You wouldn’t dream of sending a potential employer sloppy material with critical elements missing, so why present yourself in anything but the best possible light on a popular social media platform?

Lack of “Non-Essential” Sections

It’s tempting to neglect certain categories on the profile, figuring potential employers aren’t interested in them. However, offering more than basic background info can spark connections with readers and present a more complete picture of who you are and what you bring to the table.

“If you have a strong secondary hobby that may have business applications, LinkedIn is the place to post this,” Oliver says. “For example, I write career books, but I also do a lot of volunteer work. The ‘Volunteer’ section of the profile allows me to show strengths other than writing. This helps me show a more rounded profile. Another spot which accomplishes that is the area called ‘Organizations.’ If someone sits on a board, this may be a good area for her to fill out the information.”

No Testimonials

Finally, leave this area blank and run the risk of employers wondering if you couldn’t find anyone to say good things about you. Positive statements from others are a subtle way to toot your own horn and add substance to what the rest of your profile is trying to convey—you’re a great person to hire!

Tips with thanks to Tracey Carroll, Recruitment Specialist.  FlexJobs

The Soup, The Steak & an Instagram Kit: Too Far?

The Soup, The Steak & an Instagram Kit: Too Far?

Maybe I am just looking at it wrong. Maybe it is because I am a photographer and spend so many hours every day with a camera in my hand. Maybe it is because I am an old soul, but is this a step too far?

This morning I read this aritcle on stylist.co.uk after food, travel and car journalist Melanie May of www.melaniemay.com I can recommend a trip to read her work. It sickens me there are people who have all the craic of top gear and get to stuff themselves too. ;)

Okay, back to the Instagram kits with your dinner. So the Kit consists of a battery pack, LED light, Lens stick on for your phone and a Tripod Selfie Stick. 

From a business sense, of course there are positives. Every visit is logged, you get free social media content. In fact, your customers are paying you to take photographs of the food they paid for. The content is as good as it will get from each individual person and your interactions with customers goes up. 

At what cost though? Doesn't it just feed into the Gap between who we feel we are and who we think the rest of the world expects us to be? Does it fuel the need we have to display the perfect life on social media in order to keep up with the people we follow? This inherent requirement to show plumage like a strutting peacock. 

What damage does this do to us individually? Do we sacrifice our individuality for the sake of showing off to others? Do we create a sense of insignificance within ourselves if we don't conform to social pressures?

Is it a step too far? or am I just getting too old?

How you walk in the skin you wear is your decision. Why not embrace it? What other choice do you have?

The Psychology of Selfies

The Psychology of Selfies

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We have all done it. Getting caught in a group as someone shoots a selfie becoming all too aware of our body shape and height as in comparison to everyone else in the photograph. Turning side on for a better profile or using pro tips and tricks to get the jaw line and facial expression right. (That last one may just be me). 

Even Former US President George Bush stood on a stool for photographs with Mexican President Vicente Fox in 2005. Bush isn't short either. He is 6 feet tall, but as the leader of the free world didn't want to appear smaller than the 6'4" Mexican leader. 

So why would the "Leader of the free World" want to appear taller next to President Fox? Primal Instinct. 

All animals use size to show dominance or submission. When your dog has been bold and you raise your voice. They become smaller. When the post man or that child across the road they hate walk past. They become bigger and their hair stands on end. 

As humans we do this too. World leaders addressing the masses are elevated, standing proud on podiums, kings and queens sit high on thrones while their subjects look up at them. 

There is another way of adding a few inches to your height. The Selfie! 

Not only are we showing the world how great our life is, competing with the social demands we place upon ourselves. Showing how fun and exciting our lives are, we show dominance and proud stature.

Holding the camera at eye level, taking into account how wide the camera is and the changes that causes, it shows what we look like normally. You get a stronger angle on your jaw, focus more on your eyes and make your shoulders look broader and waist look smaller. On the whole looking taller and in better shape. Shooting from below makes your shoulders look huge and make you look taller and dominant as if the person looking at the image is shorter than you. 

Florida State University psychologist Anastasia Makhanova and her colleagues tested the hypothesis that people would manipulate camera angle when taking selfies as an impression-management strategy. The rationale for this idea is derived from evolutionary theory.

In the mating world of Bob and Carol and Ted and Alice, two processes are at play, intersexual attraction and intrasexual competition. Intersexual attraction refers to the set of strategies that people use to arouse the interest of members of the opposite sex. Bob brings Carol an extra-large piece of meat from the hunt to show he’s a good provider. Meanwhile, Ted shows his thoughtfulness by bringing Alice an animal skin to keep her warm on a chilly night. Likewise, Carol and Alice are flaunting their youth and fertility to garner the attention of Bob and Ted.

At the same time, Bob and Ted are in intrasexual competition with each other as they vie for the ladies’ attention. To do this, Bob and Ted jockey for a position of dominance amongst themselves, since the more powerful male will likely attract the sexier female. Women are attracted to men who dominate other men, but they also expect those same men to be supportive toward their spouses. Likewise, women rely more on social influence than physical size or strength to establish their position in the pecking order.

Thus, Makhanova and colleagues argue, people will manipulate the camera angle of their selfies depending on their intended audience. In one study, they examined self-portraits posted by men and women on internet dating and professional-networking sites. In this case, the internet dating sites were viewed as contexts for intersexual attraction, and the professional-network sites as contexts for intrasexual competition.

Specifically, they made the following predictions:

  • Men will take selfies from below when their audience is other men (to show dominance).
  • Men will take selfies straight on when their audience is women (to show supportiveness).
  • Women will take selfies from above when their audience is men (to show submission).
  • Women will take selfies straight on when their audience is other women (to show supportiveness).

This is exactly the pattern of results that Makhanova and colleagues obtained. But this was just an observational study, and the researchers wondered if they could produce these effects experimentally. So they approached students on campus, handed them a camera and asked them to take a selfie. Half of the participants were told their picture would be viewed by members of the same sex, and the other half were told it would be shown to members of the opposite sex. Again, the results patterned as predicted.

So, people really do manipulate the camera angle of selfies to create an impression of dominance or submission. But are other people actually influenced by camera angle? To explore this question, the researchers took pictures of men and women, each from all three camera angles—above, straight on, and below.  

Another set of participants then viewed these photos and rated them on a number of characteristics related to dominance and submission. They also rated the attractiveness and other physical characteristics of the person in each photo. As predicted, the men were perceived as taller and rated as more dominant and attractive when the camera angle was from below. And conversely, the women were perceived as younger and rated as more submissive and attractive when the camera angle was from above.

These results show that people really do manipulate their perceived height to indicate dominance or submission. Furthermore, people actually are influenced by these attempts at impression management. But what’s the take-home message?

Here’s the advice for men: If you’re trying to impress other men in a professional context, take your selfies from below. This will signal your dominance. But if you’re trying to impress women in a romantic context, take your selfies straight on. This will show your supportiveness.

And here’s the advice for women: If you’re trying to impress other women in a professional context, take your selfies straight on. This will demonstrate your social intelligence. But if you’re trying to impress men in a romantic context, take your selfies from above. This will make you look younger and more attractive.

Despite our modern beliefs about gender equality, the dynamics of intersexual attraction and intrasexual competition are still deeply engrained within us. However, this doesn’t mean we’re powerless pawns of our evolutionary past. Rather, it means that if we understand how these dynamics work, we gain power over them and can wield them to our own advantage.

References

Makhanova, A., McNulty, J. K., & Maner, J. K. (2017). Relative physical position as an impression-management strategy: Sex differences in its use and implications. Psychological Science, 28, 567-577./ Psychology Today: Dr David Ludden

What Makes a Great Portrait?

What Makes a Great Portrait?

I am often contacted on social media by photographers of all skill levels, ages and from all over the world. Some just dropping a quick "Love your work" to some asking questions. 

This morning I got a message on Instagram from a photographer. Telling me he had read my blog and is in the same place I was when I first picked up a camera. Terrified to photograph people because they might not like the images. 

He asked what it is that makes a great portrait. The photographer in me wanted to say, The sharpness, the lighting, the composition and the engagement between the sitter and the lens. 

But that would be wrong.

"Briain" ©John Murray Headshots 

"Briain" ©John Murray Headshots 

The truth behind a good portrait isn't really any of those things. I suppose those things are there to support the great image. Sure it's nice to have a good lens, a good camera and nice expensive lighting. 

None of those matter though if who you are photographing isn't visible. I don't mean the form we know as human. I mean who they are on the inside. 

My reply to the message could only be one thing. 

A great portrait is when you see the sitter, for who they are. Not what they look like. When they are just being them and you just happen to push the button. That is a great portrait. 

How you walk in the skin you wear is your decision. Why not embrace it?
What other choice do you have?

Don't breach clients trust!!

Never use clients private information for personal gain

I wouldn't be one to rant for nothing, and as a business owner I am very conscious of privacy with peoples emails. 

Last week I got an email the private email of the owner of a business with a fairly substantial online presence. Asking me to vote for him to win a car. Needless to say, I didn't vote. For a start, he had taken my email address from his companies online database to ask me to do something for him to win a car. Secondly, this is just not cool. 

So this morning, I get an email from Nissan, Thanking me for my vote. Shocked to say the least I investigated to find that he had been using my email address, and god knows how many others to vote for himself. 

Ever one to give a man a chance, I emailed him, on both his company and private emails asking for an explanation. His excuse. He assumed he could do it and Nissan told him he could. 

"Hi,
Just a quick note - anyone who votes for me here (Nissan Generation Next's competition to win a free car - takes two seconds) and then emails me back with the email they used, after confirming the vote, will be in with a chance to win some Positivity Packs.
The reason for this is I'd be putting in your email to vote each day (They said you're allowed do this with permission).
Stay happy,
James"

Lets dissect. In the beginning, he states anyone who votes for him will go into a draw to win some free positivity packs. (Don't order on the 23rd of the month. He only ships on the 22nd and it will take 5 weeks to arrive, from Ireland) Then goes on to say that he will be entering your email address in every day to enter. 

Dont use clients information for personal gains people. It's just plain wrong

Belfast Headshot day

Belfast Headshot Day

The John Murray Headshots team is coming to 1G1 Studios, Crumlin Road Belfast on July 29th. There is still limited places available to work with an award winning team. 

For a free information pack and to book your place, get in touch via our bookings page. 
 

Heroes Don't Wear Capes

Heroes Don't Wear Capes

So tonight I was sent this on twitter by Train Ability founder Angela C O'Connor with the message 

" sometimes you need to look back to remind yourself, how far you have come 🎗"

This is Lucy. At the time of shooting this Lucy was just 8 years of age and had already done more for others in those few years than most of us do for others our whole lives. 

Not only did she raise Tens of Thousands for charity by selling wrist bands. Not long after this she & her family fought, and changed the way the HSE issue GP visit cards to children with long term illness. Coupled with her amazing parents. Lorcan and of course Angela, Who's company provides invaluable training and education to companies on how to be disability aware.  

We get lost in the monotony of our daily lives. For most we get up and rush around, to sit in traffic or squash onto public transport. To walk silent and alone in crowds of thousands, to be unremarkable for the day. Then go back into the grey cloud of earphones and mobile phones back home. To do it all again the next day. 

You don't have to wear a cape to be a hero, you just need to glow from the inside out. 

For anyone helping their children through a cancer story. Angela writes a blog that will not only inspire but show you, you are not alone. You can get to the blog by clicking here. 

Go make a difference. Be Brave, Be Proactive.
Be like Lucy.

#BeInpired #BeInspirational #HerosDontWearCapes

World Selfie Day

World Selfie Day

So Today is World Selfie Day. This could get interesting. I was asked by journalist Nicola Bardon of The Sun newspaper for some tips. A Do's & Don'ts list. You can see it here.

Remember Be Safe and Respectful when Shooting Selfies

Brilliant, Fast or Cheap. Pick Two

Brilliant, Fast or Cheap. Pick Two. 

Inspired by something Target McConnells chairman Gary Brown once said. I got thinking. Like many things I see and hear, they stew with the hamster on the wheel in my brain because they relate not only to the context in which I found them, but can often translate across life and society as we know it. 

Speaking at the annual An Post, Post Media conference in Croke Park, Gary was referring to clients wants and needs. Often having to tell them they have three things to choose from. Pick Two. 

"You can have it Cheap & Fast, it won't be Brilliant., Have it Cheap & Brilliant it won't be Fast, or you can have it Fast & Brilliant but it's not gonna be Cheap". 

As a former wedding photographer this rang many bells. Both from clients requests, to turn around times, and the ever present question of "Why are you so expensive?, someone on Gumtree said they would do it for €250". 

So I thought about how this reflects on society on the whole. We are obsessed with speed. Getting from place to place or seeing results immediately.
Where in the past we were happy enough with dial up internet modems, now if your 100mb network is only running at 50mb we are agitated waiting on pages to load. Some of us restarting devices in fits of impatience.

Now look at how that carries over into our health and lifestyle. Living fast and frivolous, wanting to stay young and fit. How can we live a long healthy lifestyle, remain youthful and healthy but still be lazy, eating and drinking what is fast and convenient. You can't have it all!

I recently saw two documentaries back to back recorded on our Sky+, Dr. Ciara Kelly Presented BodyShopping on RTE followed by Micky Flanagan on Sky show Thinking Aloud.

First Dr. Kelly met with people going the fast and expensive route. Changing physical appearances to make themselves happier and appear healthier and youthful. Fast & Expensive doesn't mean brilliant.
These cosmetic procedures hadn't done anything to boost health. Merely whitewashing a wall full of cracks won't hold it together. Many of them not finding the inner peace or happiness they hoped to attain. The problems, deep seated within them. Always psychological, not physiological. The Gap between how they see themselves and how the feel the world expects them to be. 

Next was Micky Flanagan on Thinking Aloud. In the episode he was looking at people ageing. He met with an 82 year old fitness instructor, she drank 3 litres of water a day, ate healthy and exercised daily. She didn't look 60. Cheap and Brilliant, but not Fast. 

Over the show Micky talked to a number of people all on the same quest. To remain youthful. Some throwing money at it in the hope it will keep them looking young but being no more healthy, expense without the guarantee they will live any longer or be any happier. You can't have all three. 

I suppose we all need to think about what it is we really want from life. Learning to slow down and get it the right way instead of some plastic pseudo-happy equivalent that seems to come straight away but doesn't last very long. 

How you walk in the skin you wear is your decision. Why not embrace it? What other choice do you have?

Click! A Fraction of a Second to Change Your Life.

Click! A Fraction of a Second to Change Your Life.

©John Murray Headshots

©John Murray Headshots

I make no secret. When I picked up a camera first, I was terrified. Scared beyond belief to take photographs of people. I was the master of Malahide Castle Images & the champion of Howth Harbour. Or so I thought. 

All the while I would shy away from photographing people. After all, Malahide Castle or Howth Lighthouse weren't going to be offended or tell me they looked fat. 

Over time I faced my fears, starting with photographing family and friends. Then weddings and some fashion and magazine work until 21st December 2013. Winter Solstice. 

Meet Briain (For those tuning in from outside of Ireland, Pronounced Bree-an), 
On a very cold day in December 2013 my photographic career changed. In 1/160th of a second there became nothing between Briain and I. The camera became invisible as he stood for the second of two photographs. The first without his hat. 

As he stood for the first image, I noted a slight familiarity in his face. His small frame and posture reminiscent of Sinatra. Click. His daughter interjected. "Can we put his hat on? He looks like a gangster with it!" "Of course" I laughed. 

As they searched for the hat, I continued to shoot. One man, One camera and One light. 
As he entered the room again with the hat, I caught the eye of my colleague Dave. He smiled with begrudging approval knowing something different was about to happen. 

Briain stepped forward. I positioned him under the light and adjusted it to compensate for the position of the hat. Making sure to tilt the brim slightly for dramatic effect. I stood back behind the light, took my breath and focused the camera. The sound of the heavy 85mm lens rolling like a glass ball across floor boards. Briain's face coming out of the blurred darkness with cinematic grace. 
I don't recall what I said. Held my breath and smiled. My face masked behind the giant black body of the Canon 1DX. Click

"We done?" he asked. "We're done" I said as Dave walked across the room. Abandoning all else. I looked to Dave who without saying a word was asking Well? I nodded approvingly. "It's special". My only words. 

Before they left, I asked Briain and his daughter would they mind if I used it as part of my portfolio. Getting him to sign a release. All the while that moment. Solidified in my mind. Playing back over and over. 

Getting home at almost 1am that night, I pulled the images off the camera just to see it on my IMac Screen. With some quick editing to bring it closer to what we see with the human eye it was done. 

In the days that followed. The emails came one after the other. After he was shared by Canon to the world at large. Online Photography Journals and websites asked could they feature. Two of which featured on Christmas Day.

Click. 1/160th of a second. Click. An epiphany. Since then, this fraction of a second. I have stood five feet from every face I photograph. Searching for that sense of connection. Where the big black camera all but dissolves. 

As photographers we are indebted to the faces we shoot. We need to look beyond the superficial, to share the substance. Finding genuine, reactive expressions that are based on trust.
How you walk in the skin you wear is your decision.
Why not embrace it?
What other choice do you have?

Belfast Headshot Day

Belfast Headshot Day

They say first impressions last, and they'd be right!

You have 0.9 Seconds to make a strong first impression. In a digital age, our first impressions come from your headshot.

On Linkedin, your website or through acting or modelling agency cards. How people perceive you happens based on how you invest in your personal brand. 

John Murray, Ireland's only active Peter Hurley trained headshot Photographer is coming to Belfast's 1G1 Studio on Saturday July 29th 2017 and bookings are limited. 

For details & to book your session contact the team here.

Are You Taking the P*ss

Are You Taking the P*ss

As many of you reading will appreciate, as business owners brand image is almost everything. From day one, you plan and worry about how things look on the business and how to give the business the best public image. 

Another big worry is revenue. Marketing and finding fresh new business is also something we worry about. Doing everything we can to build trust in order to draw in business. 

So.... We all get marketing mail through the door. (Junk Mail) Some companies have the cash flow to employ professional companies like An Post AdMailer or City Post. Companies with less opting to post the flyers themselves. (Hey, get the kids involved. Two birds one stone).

Today, in our small estate of only fifty houses we had two men in a jeep posting advertising flyers for a local business. (I won't name and shame).
After working their way around the estate, talking to residents along the way, one of the men was, caught short! (For those not from Ireland, Caught short means he needed to urinate). 

So onto the small green space in the estate where the kids play he went. Unzipped and rather unceremoniously watered the plants. In an estate where 60% of the houses have young families. 

Seriously people. Don't post things through doors with hands you wouldn't hold your kids with. 

This isn't the first time either. Recently a family member of ours in another even smaller estate in the area had issues with a door to door sales person urinating on the wall of her house. Only to be seen by her 5 year old daughter. 

Put a plan in place people. Tell your staff or representatives to either go to a pub, a restaurant or knock on a door and ask for the mercy of a resident. 

Don't take the piss!! It's not worth having your name on a list. 

Ingenuity & Adversity, Finding Song Though Hearing Loss

Ingenuity & Adversity, Finding Song Though Hearing Loss

We are surrounded by noise. Both audible and visual. Billions of images and videos uploaded to the internet every day. It all becomes very grey.  

Very rarely in our mundane world do we come across people who are truly astounding. Using every avenue available to us as humans to explore, learn and grow. 

Meet Mandy Harvey a twenty nine year old Jazz singer from the USA. The thing that makes her special? She lost her hearing at the age of nine. 

Mandy is an example of what it is to be human, what it is to adapt and overcome adversity. Proof the human race can really do absolutely anything. 

By using her remaining senses, singing barefoot next to a speaker to feel the vibrations of the beats, using her sight and sense of feeling to learn to sing notes and remembering the sensation. Mandy learned to sing with pitch perfection. 

If ever you feel deflated, beaten and like the world just isn't turning on the same access you are. Remember you can overcome almost anything. You just need to look at it from another angle. 

How you walk in the skin you wear is your decision. Why not embrace it?
What other choice do you have?

5 Tips for the Perfect headshot :Video

5 Tips for the Perfect Headshot :Video

Hey Guys, If you are anything like me. You love nothing more than a Youtube video to explain how to do something. So, I've done a few. Here are 5 top tips for your perfect headshot. 

Latest Visitors Across the World

Latest Visitors Across the World

As you all know I am a little obsessed with where people are clicking in from. I am fascinated by different cultures and how each country as you move over East, or West changes slightly with each border. 

Ireland: Dublin, Cork, Limerick, Galway, Carlow, Kilkenny, Belfast
UK: London: Chelsea, Hendon, East Molesey, Hackney. Basingstoke, Willingdon Eastbourne. Wales: Newport
Germany: Boppard
Sweden: Huddinge
Greece: Athens
Portugal: Coimbra
Italy: Novellara
Switzerland: Lausanne

Finland: Helsinki
Saudi Arabia: Al Murabba, Riyadh
Australia: Melbourne, Hurlstone Park Sydney
France: Paris
Singapore.

USA: Stockton California., Aurora Colorado, Atlanta Georgia, Hastings Michigan, Piscataway Township New Jersey, Clegg North Carolina, Herndon Virginia, Malvern Pennsylvania, Orlando, Pensacola Florida,
 

Comments are enabled for this post. Drop a comment where you are from!!

Come out of the shadows & own it

Come Out of The Shadows & Own It!

We spend so much of our life floating along. Not doing anything or taking chances that make people sit up and listen. We can be every level of sensational but never be heard.

Meet Anton. I have shared the full second video before in another post because it is about owning it. Standing up for your own individuality taking life by the horns and saying I am me and that is good enough. 

Anton was a backing singer for people like Aretha Franklin, big names with big bold voices. The people who attract every pair of eyes when they enter a room and every ear as they speak. Anton lived in the shadows. Supplementing the greatness of others to let them shine. 

Until the moment he took to the X Factor stage in the first video. It starts just as he enters the stage and tells why he wants to step forward into the light and be happy being him.

The second video starts when Rita Ora acknowledges Anton Individuality. Validating something nobody should require validation for. His appearance. 

It ends with Simon's critique, again drawing attention to Anton's expressions. Until Anton stands proud and takes ownership. "I Believe in me"

Maybe it's time we all reflect a bit on who we are, what makes us and to show what is waiting to flourish within us. 

How you walk in the skin you wear is your decision. Why not embrace it? What other choice do you have?

Website Visitors

Website Visitors

It never ceases to amaze me some of the places people visit my website from. Places that don't often get press or never feature in film or the TV shows we watch. Places I've only ever heard of because people are clicking buttons, looking at my images and reading my blog posts. 

I have a little bit of an obsession with seeing where people are clicking in from and often there are little surprises. Really cool guys. Thanks for dropping in. Over the past few days people dropped in from these places. 

Ireland: Dublin, Belfast, Cork, Wicklow, Galway.
England: London (Soho, Hackney, Fulham), Worchester, Manchester, Royal Wootton Bassett, Wolverhampton.
Scotland: Edinburgh, Leven
Italy: Genoa, Rome, Monza.
Canada: Mississauga, Chatham-Kent Ontario
Norway: Oslo
USA: Manhattan NYC, Chicago & Naperville IL, Oklahoma City, Tampa FL. San Jose, Compton Los Angeles CA. Tucson AZ. Philadelphia PA. Dayton Ohio. Boston & Gardiner MA. 
Spain: Malaga
Portugal: Almada

2,634 Visits by 2,019 people in the past week. It's touching to think the voice of one man, can stretch so far.

How you walk in the skin you wear is your decision. Why not embrace it? What other choice do you have?

Manchester Attack

Manchester Attack: Fighting Hate

Today the world wakes with a sombre stillness. The news reporting an attack on innocence. The killing of children and their parents at Manchester Arena following the Ariana Grande Concert. The senseless murder of so many in the name of any cause, nothing more than cowardly. 

Fighting Hate

In the wake of the attack, so many opened their doors as refuge, people bringing anonymous strangers into their homes for shelter and warmth in their times of need. Regardless of colour, religion or creed. People, helping people. This is how we beat hate. 

We beat hate by refusing to acknowledge difference. We beat hate by refusing to use labels. 
Don't call me white, I won't call you black, Don't call me straight, I won't call you gay. Don't call me Catholic, I won't call you Muslim, protestant or Hindi. 

In killing labels we kill hate. We individually need to take steps to stop ourselves acknowledging difference. We pass this on through generations to our children and theirs. Spread love, selflessness and kindness.  

My thoughts are with you all Manchester. 

Celebrity to Anonymous :- Jennifer Grey

Celebrity to Anonymous: - Jennifer Grey

A face known across generations for her role in Dirty Dancing. Jennifer Grey was born into a show business family. The daughter of two screen actors. Academy Award Winning Joel Grey and Actor and singer Jo Wilder. 

With a string of roles in the 1980 from Ferris Bueller's day off to her Golden Globe nominated roll in the cult film Dirty Dancing in 1987. Jennifer's star was well and truly risen. One of the most recognisable faces in Hollywood. 

Then she had that nose job. 

She in the early 1990's did something that would change her life and the course of her career, and not for the better. She had rhinoplasty making her almost unrecognisable to not only the public, but to her own friends and family. In a 2012 interview she told The Mirror "I went into the operating theatre a celebrity and came out anonymous". It was the nose job from hell. I’ll always be this once-famous actress nobody ­recognises because of a nose job.”

We often forget to consider the consequences of our actions in advance of them. Did it end her life? No. It didn't kill her, it didn't stop her from being happy. 

There is beauty in every face. That beauty is as unique as the personality behind each one. 

How you walk in the skin you wear is your decision. Why not embrace it. What other choice to you have?

Vanity & Speed. A societies vice.

Vanity & Speed. A Societies Vice.

Thursday night for me was a feast for the brain. Being a busy business owner I was off galavanting around Dublin and had to record my favourite TV shows and brain food. First of the night was Bodyshopping on RTE, Followed by Micky Flanagan Thinking aloud on Sky.

In body shopping we saw Donna travel for a breast augmentation, Margaret have an eye lift and mother and daughter Anne and Bianca have anti-ageing work done. While thinking aloud saw Micky explore the world of the Mid life crisis. 

Fundamentally, I do agree with anything that makes people feel better in themselves, but there is a crux. Let's come back to this. 

The one thing that stands out through all of the stories individually is each person, is trying to attain a level of superficial beauty they perceive to be the acceptable norm in the world. We are surrounded by advertising telling us that if we have this car, wear these clothes or use this toothpaste. We can be sexy, happy and never have to worry about the generic day to day again. 

I want to touch on Margaret for a second. A middle aged woman giving of herself to her ill father. The level of kindness and compassion she shows for him very evident. There are so many who don't have such fortune. She and others like her, caring for the elderly, ill and infirm could teach us all a thing or two about humility and humanity. 

I was taken aback when Margaret said when she is in social circles she pulls back, feeling like she has nothing to say and doesn't want to have people looking at her. This is called Imposter syndrome and is something most suffer from to a degree. In a recent worldwide study  60% of people said they had avoided contributing to a group forum to avoid drawing attention to how they looked. 

What matters here is not how tired she felt she looked. It is not in the superficial but very much in her substance. A hard working, kind, caring woman who has the love and admiration of many. Especially her father. Not one of them focused on her eye lids. 

Mother and Daughter duo Anne and Bianca were in together for Anti-Ageing treatments. Anne having her skin peeled with a laser, Bianca at 24 starting a course of Botox. Again two people wanting to conform to what they think the rest of the world expects from them and looking for the easy option. 

I call it the easy option because people are being sold cosmetic surgery as the first stop for anti-ageing. It does nothing for your body medically, doesn't make you fitter or won't make you live any longer. In Thinking Aloud Micky Flanagan met with a 73 year old fitness enthusiast who looked 40. She exercised every day, drank plenty of water and most importantly didn't smoke. 

So coupled with the advertising man telling us we have to look and act a certain way, we now have the issue of speed and impatience. Where 10 years ago we would sit listening to the modem dial into the internet and watch the pages slowly form on screen, we now shake in anger tapping the screen if our smart phones don't open our favourite website, video or Facebook page in under 5 seconds. If it goes past 10 wondering if the site or phone network is down. 

Now the concept of living a healthy life is arduous and inconvenient. Eating and drinking well. Preparing food the way it was done before everything was available at a minutes notice. Why should we spend a life time making work for ourselves and doing things the old way when we can have it all quicker with a higher cost. 

Back to the crux. Everyone should have the right to feel good in themselves, no matter what it takes. Try it the old fashioned way first. Learn to see the substance and not the superficial. Live a life that is slower in pace and it will last longer, you will look and feel the way men and women are supposed to look and feel at that age. Take care of the inside both physically and mentally, it will show on the outside.
If you have exhausted all other avenues and still feel that what is on the outside isn't where you want it to be. Then and only then should you change the features your ancestors loaned you. 

Just remember in changing them, you are telling the next generation that what you gave to them. Just isn't good enough. 

How you walk in the skin you wear is your decision. Why not embrace it?
What other choice do you have?